Have you ever looked at the lobby browser 90+% of the games say Noobs only or are non standard settingsYou don't have to play RM. If you only want to play arena or arabia or BF 4v4s, go set up a lobby. Nothing is stopping you from doing this.
Parting after the already obnoxiously long queues should earn a 12 hour ban from matchmaking, quickly escalating into a permanent ban for repeat offenses.