There’s no need to talk yourself down. It shows that you care a lot about being better (which I like about you), but this is a textbook definition of being too hard on yourself. You just need to find a balance between caring about being better and stopping before an emotional implosion and explosion occurs (it looked like both happened imo).If I ever post something like this again, just mock me, since that would mean I hadn't learned my lesson and people shouldn't waste their time trying to help me
I feel like if this constitutes as me being too hard on myself, then most other people in this thread are also being too hard on me (considering the "yes" and "attention seeker?" messages), which I don't think is the case, nor is it helpful or dignified to have a victim mentality. "I should never come back" is probably a little too harsh, though. But I shouldn't be coddled, these types of outbursts shouldn't be excused because "oh he just needs help". I just make bad decisions. But I do appreciate your care, and same goes to @-R- and @Influenza and @_PaternaAoE_There’s no need to talk yourself down. It shows that you care a lot about being better (which I like about you), but this is a textbook definition of being too hard on yourself. You just need to find a balance between caring about being better and stopping before an emotional implosion and explosion occurs (it looked like both happened imo).
Also, it usually takes more than one time before many lessons are learned. Ease up a bit, but not too much unless you don’t mind letting yourself go.
True, some good points. Victim mentalities aren’t good.I feel like if this constitutes as me being too hard on myself, then most other people in this thread are also being too hard on me (considering the "yes" and "attention seeker?" messages), which I don't think is the case, nor is it helpful or dignified to have a victim mentality. "I should never come back" is probably a little too harsh, though. But I shouldn't be coddled, these types of outbursts shouldn't be excused because "oh he just needs help". I just make bad decisions. But I do appreciate your care, and same goes to @-R- and @Influenza and @_PaternaAoE_
I haven't re-read my initial post. I don't really remember what it saysThat’s also with the feel of the initial post, which I don’t think you really know how it comes off
Most of the replies seem like troll posts to me, or at least you should take it that way. Some people have a different sense of humor or they are just outright negative in their world view.I feel like if this constitutes as me being too hard on myself, then most other people in this thread are also being too hard on me (considering the "yes" and "attention seeker?" messages), which I don't think is the case, nor is it helpful or dignified to have a victim mentality. "I should never come back" is probably a little too harsh, though. But I shouldn't be coddled, these types of outbursts shouldn't be excused because "oh he just needs help". I just make bad decisions. But I do appreciate your care, and same goes to @-R- and @Influenza and @_PaternaAoE_
If I ever post something like this again, just mock me, since that would mean I hadn't learned my lesson
It’s never a bad thing to do stuff like this and self-reflect. This is one of the things that people go through when seeking therapy, it is just very deeply. (Never been to therapy myself, just what I’ve heard from someone I know that went to around 5 therapists a long time ago)I haven't re-read my initial post. I don't really remember what it says
No. Re-read:So you are basically asking for troll responses but then also complain about these?
working out, boxing, exercising, running = ways to deal with anger.I know that maybe my comment wont suit aoezone but if u have problems controling you anger than maybe psychoteraphy or something like that would help you with it.
It feels as though I’ve said enough in this topic, but there’s one thing I would like to say about this just as a word of warning.working out, boxing, exercising, running = ways to deal with anger.
Exercise is great in general, it improves mood and mental health (as well as physical health of course), making one less likely to be angry during the day. That's far more effective than trying to use exercise as a way to let off steam, since doing that doesn't fix the underlying issue, but rather acts as a band-aid.It feels as though I’ve said enough in this topic, but there’s one thing I would like to say about this just as a word of warning.
I hope people are careful when thinking this is a way to deal with anger. I believe it is something of a common misconception to think exercising (or any form of activity like it) is a healthy way to deal with anger. It basically teaches someone it’s ok to get angry and exercise with it. Infact, it sounds potentially dangerous because it is releasing it that way. There was something I heard of years ago from a cardiologist that just even recalling an incident that makes someone really angry is already sending the heart to “danger levels”. So I can only imagine that it’s not ideal when say, doing boxing and taking out everything on a punching bag.
I’ve never actually heard of exercise lowering the chances of becoming angry.Exercise is great in general, it improves mood and mental health (as well as physical health of course), making one less likely to be angry during the day. That's far more effective than trying to use exercise as a way to let off steam, since doing that doesn't fix the underlying issue, but rather acts as a band-aid.
Being healthy is great to prevent outbursts. However, I think you're being too hard on yourself. I see my younger self in you. I was obsessed to get better. I took losses very hard and I'm sure Alex remembers the good ole times. Don't let people make you out to be some maniac, you have greater passion. Do not give up and use the time off from 1v1s to polish up your game. Tune up your keys and come back stronger. If you allow yourself to give up in this chapter of your life, then the rest will consume you.Exercise is great in general, it improves mood and mental health (as well as physical health of course), making one less likely to be angry during the day. That's far more effective than trying to use exercise as a way to let off steam, since doing that doesn't fix the underlying issue, but rather acts as a band-aid.
Looks like there is some research out thereI’ve never actually heard of exercise lowering the chances of becoming angry.
Dunno about that, but I have a friend that was actually in a toxic relationship long ago. He exercised regularly and blew off steam regularly while exercising when the issues came about (and telling me how great it felt), but still became angry. Maybe his relationship was just that bad though, or depends on the type of exercise if it’s true.
I also have another friend that’s a yoga fanatic that stands by yoga being the answer to every issue like that (depression, stress, anger). Personally, I prefer tea and a form of meditation to deal with many issues in life.
First link doesn’t work for me, but some interesting stuff. Brings back memories.
i will always carry you in my heart the peaceful is willing towhy do u think that saying an unpopular opinion on aoezone is incompatible with identifying when someone needs help
I think the advantage of forums like aoezone over the reddit is that unpopular opinion is not downvoted thus hidden for most of the readers.why do u think that saying an unpopular opinion on aoezone is incompatible with identifying when someone needs help